CONGRATULATIONS!! I hope your big day is everything you have dreamed about. Regardless of what may go wrong (and something ALWAYS goes wrong) just remember that at the end of the day the ONLY thing that matters is that you are married to the love of your life! Everything else is just "icing!"
I spent FOREVER picking out the "perfect church" and finally decided on one....then (literally) FOUR DAYS before my wedding they told me that the church (which had been undergoing renovations) would NOT be ready in time for my special day!! The renovations were supposed to be over in JANUARY and my wedding wasn't until APRIL! Since I didn't attend that particular church I had NO IDEA they weren't already done! So at the last minute I had to find a new church, tell/re-route all 250+ guests and basically just "deal" with what I was given! My BIGGEST concern when choosing a church was having a MIDDLE AISLE to walk down (and you would not BELIEVE how many churches do NOT have a middle aisle these days)...and I got stuck with a church that did NOT have one!! There were many other things that went wrong but I don't remember each and every one of them (it was 11 yrs ago). I just know that I could NOT see my "hubby-to-be" while I was walking down the SIDE aisle towards him. I am STILL upset about that. But again...at the end of the day all that TRULY mattered was that I was his wife!!
I have three pieces of advice for your big day:
1) If you do NOT have a middle aisle to walk down, have the priest/pastor ask your guests NOT to stand up while you walk towards your future hubby! You want to SEE him as you are walking towards him and if your guests stand up then you WONT!
2) Make SURE that someone is RECORDING your wedding on video! I thought I would remember each and every detail and I dont. 11 yrs later I WISH I had spent the money on a videographer and could WATCH my nuptuals on each anniversary we have. Unfortunately I cant and I am upset that I DIDNT spend that extra $250!
3) Have someone there or hire a wedding planner to take care of EVERYTHING that DOES go wrong...and ask NOT to be told about those things until you are DONE celebrating!! That way you dont even have to KNOW that things have gone wrong. It will GREATLY help you enjoy your day and not WORRY about anything else!!
Have fun and celebrate the LOVE you and your man share! Congrats to the both of you!! Much love! ~:)
Thank you for the lovely comments :) And a massive thanks to KatrinaJ for the advice, unfortunately my family are not as happy about me getting married as I am, so we are going away to Cyprus to marry where no one can ruin our special day. I was a little upset not to be having my dream church wedding to start with, but then as you said I realised all that matters is that we are very happy together. On the plus side, we are going to be celebrating our love, in the gorgeous sunshine with just me, my hubby, our baby daughter and my in laws :) so I suppose I could thank my father for being dick lol x x.
It's a shame that your family can't put aside their differences for ONE DAY in order for you to have the wedding of your dreams with ALL the people you love!! I was lucky enough to have parents AND in laws that I love very much. My father is a dick...but then again so are a TON of dads out there (which is a shame). Our entire day (INCLUDING wedding, reception for over 250 ppl, and honeymoon only cost about $15k b/c I did the majority of the work. But then again WHY would I want someone else to plan my special day, right!?! I even wrote the ceremony from start to finish. It was the greatest day of my life (next to becoming a mom). I have to "brag" a bit and say that everyone said it was the most beautiful wedding they had ever attended..which made me so proud b/c I worked SOOO HARD!
Anyway, we paid for a third of it, my mom paid for 1/3 and his parents paid for 1/3...so none of us had to come up with more than $5000. My dad didn't pay a cent of it (no surprise to me)...so he got to "share" in walking me down the aisle! He was never around for my life (other than for 6 weeks in the summer), he didn't raise me or teach me morals, he didn't pay for or help me with my wedding, he simply didn't "care" like my mom did! I didn't feel "right" allowing ONLY HIM to walk me down the aisle when it was my MOM who was there for me each and every day of my life! Heck, my hubby didn't ask my DAD for my hand in marriage...he asked my MOM. So they SHARED in the honor and I had my dad AND MOM walk me down! I would have simply had my MOM walk me down, but I didn't want to "ruffle any feathers" or start an all out "family war" over it, so I HAD to include him just to keep the peace! Again tho...that didn't matter. I was lucky enough to find and be marrying my soul mate and the rest was just "icing!"
Your parents should be happy for you...after all, the two of you even have a child together! Even if they dont "agree" or like him! It's YOUR life. It's YOUR choice. It's YOUR marriage!! It's not THEM getting married so they should get over themselves and support you!! I'm sure that a wedding in CYPRESS will be GORGEOUS though! It will still be the happiest day of your life...regardless of how your parents feel. As long as the GROOM shows up...nothing else matters!! LOL
I wish a lifetime of happiness and love to you and yours! Have a FABULOUS wedding! I am jealous! I wish I was going to Cypress in less than two months!! Heck I would be happy with a vacation ANYWHERE! LOL
I hope you don't mind one more piece of advice?!? MAKE TIME for just you and your hubby!!! I know you LOVE your child but you PICKED him and need to continue taking time out for just the TWO of you!! Go somewhere together at least once each year!!! It doesn't have to be extravagant or expensive....just some ADULT time alone! We save our change throughout the year and then we "roll" it and take it to the bank in order to pay to go to a chalet up in the mountains each year on my hubby's bday. It's an hour away, costs us about $200 for three nights and gives us that time to "reBOND" as a couple! It's important for both of you as well as your child(ren) that you have this "down time" together where you can be a COUPLE again, instead of "just parents!" Life gets in the way a LOT and it's really critical for your marriage to remain close which is kind of hard to do when you have kids underfoot!! The weekend away each year not only brings us closer together...it makes us better parents. After all, when WE are happy with one another, we have more patience and love to give to our children! Take it from someone who has been HAPPILY married for over 11 years and STILL LOVES her hubby just as much (if not more) than when we first met!! Keep the "spark" alive and get away from the hustle and bustle of every day life once a year and it will help you and your hubby remain close to one another!!
Have a WONDERFUL wedding and an even more BLESSED MARRIAGE!! Take care and God Bless all of you!!
And thanks for the puzzle!
CONGRATULATIONS!! I hope your big day is everything you have dreamed about. Regardless of what may go wrong (and something ALWAYS goes wrong) just remember that at the end of the day the ONLY thing that matters is that you are married to the love of your life! Everything else is just "icing!"
I spent FOREVER picking out the "perfect church" and finally decided on one....then (literally) FOUR DAYS before my wedding they told me that the church (which had been undergoing renovations) would NOT be ready in time for my special day!! The renovations were supposed to be over in JANUARY and my wedding wasn't until APRIL! Since I didn't attend that particular church I had NO IDEA they weren't already done! So at the last minute I had to find a new church, tell/re-route all 250+ guests and basically just "deal" with what I was given! My BIGGEST concern when choosing a church was having a MIDDLE AISLE to walk down (and you would not BELIEVE how many churches do NOT have a middle aisle these days)...and I got stuck with a church that did NOT have one!! There were many other things that went wrong but I don't remember each and every one of them (it was 11 yrs ago). I just know that I could NOT see my "hubby-to-be" while I was walking down the SIDE aisle towards him. I am STILL upset about that. But again...at the end of the day all that TRULY mattered was that I was his wife!!
I have three pieces of advice for your big day:
1) If you do NOT have a middle aisle to walk down, have the priest/pastor ask your guests NOT to stand up while you walk towards your future hubby! You want to SEE him as you are walking towards him and if your guests stand up then you WONT!
2) Make SURE that someone is RECORDING your wedding on video! I thought I would remember each and every detail and I dont. 11 yrs later I WISH I had spent the money on a videographer and could WATCH my nuptuals on each anniversary we have. Unfortunately I cant and I am upset that I DIDNT spend that extra $250!
3) Have someone there or hire a wedding planner to take care of EVERYTHING that DOES go wrong...and ask NOT to be told about those things until you are DONE celebrating!! That way you dont even have to KNOW that things have gone wrong. It will GREATLY help you enjoy your day and not WORRY about anything else!!
Have fun and celebrate the LOVE you and your man share! Congrats to the both of you!! Much love! ~:)
And a massive thanks to KatrinaJ for the advice, unfortunately my family are not as happy about me getting married as I am, so we are going away to Cyprus to marry where no one can ruin our special day.
I was a little upset not to be having my dream church wedding to start with, but then as you said I realised all that matters is that we are very happy together.
On the plus side, we are going to be celebrating our love, in the gorgeous sunshine with just me, my hubby, our baby daughter and my in laws :) so I suppose I could thank my father for being dick lol x x.
Anyway, we paid for a third of it, my mom paid for 1/3 and his parents paid for 1/3...so none of us had to come up with more than $5000. My dad didn't pay a cent of it (no surprise to me)...so he got to "share" in walking me down the aisle! He was never around for my life (other than for 6 weeks in the summer), he didn't raise me or teach me morals, he didn't pay for or help me with my wedding, he simply didn't "care" like my mom did! I didn't feel "right" allowing ONLY HIM to walk me down the aisle when it was my MOM who was there for me each and every day of my life! Heck, my hubby didn't ask my DAD for my hand in marriage...he asked my MOM. So they SHARED in the honor and I had my dad AND MOM walk me down! I would have simply had my MOM walk me down, but I didn't want to "ruffle any feathers" or start an all out "family war" over it, so I HAD to include him just to keep the peace! Again tho...that didn't matter. I was lucky enough to find and be marrying my soul mate and the rest was just "icing!"
Your parents should be happy for you...after all, the two of you even have a child together! Even if they dont "agree" or like him! It's YOUR life. It's YOUR choice. It's YOUR marriage!! It's not THEM getting married so they should get over themselves and support you!! I'm sure that a wedding in CYPRESS will be GORGEOUS though! It will still be the happiest day of your life...regardless of how your parents feel. As long as the GROOM shows up...nothing else matters!! LOL
I wish a lifetime of happiness and love to you and yours! Have a FABULOUS wedding! I am jealous! I wish I was going to Cypress in less than two months!! Heck I would be happy with a vacation ANYWHERE! LOL
I hope you don't mind one more piece of advice?!?
MAKE TIME for just you and your hubby!!! I know you LOVE your child but you PICKED him and need to continue taking time out for just the TWO of you!! Go somewhere together at least once each year!!! It doesn't have to be extravagant or expensive....just some ADULT time alone! We save our change throughout the year and then we "roll" it and take it to the bank in order to pay to go to a chalet up in the mountains each year on my hubby's bday. It's an hour away, costs us about $200 for three nights and gives us that time to "reBOND" as a couple! It's important for both of you as well as your child(ren) that you have this "down time" together where you can be a COUPLE again, instead of "just parents!" Life gets in the way a LOT and it's really critical for your marriage to remain close which is kind of hard to do when you have kids underfoot!! The weekend away each year not only brings us closer together...it makes us better parents. After all, when WE are happy with one another, we have more patience and love to give to our children! Take it from someone who has been HAPPILY married for over 11 years and STILL LOVES her hubby just as much (if not more) than when we first met!! Keep the "spark" alive and get away from the hustle and bustle of every day life once a year and it will help you and your hubby remain close to one another!!
Have a WONDERFUL wedding and an even more BLESSED MARRIAGE!! Take care and God Bless all of you!!