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She seems to be personally offended that when I first joined I was criticizing everything -- do you think apologizing would help?
She seems to be personally offended that when I first joined I was criticizing everything -- do you think apologizing would help?
thanks.
Yes, I have been "personally offended" by all the crappy and rude things you have said about other "artists" puzzles since you first joined and I'm not the ONLY one who has picked up on it either! However, I am not the one that you should feel the need to "apologize" to! I don't care or take offence by things you have said to ME about MY puzzles, it's what you have said to others that has ticked me off!
I apologize to you because I have very little tolerance for bullies or those who feel the need to cut others down in an effort to make themselves feel better (or whatever your reason is for being rude). It's very hard for me to "sit on the sidelines" and not speak up/stand up for others whom have been "mistreated" in any way.
Time after time, puzzle after puzzle you have written pretty crappy things about and yes it did upset me! EVERYONE on here does their best when creating their Hanjie's. Some are absolutely wonderful & challenging, some are super easy and don't present much of a challenge, and some are nearly impossible to complete...but everyone tries! NOBODY on here deserves to be told that their puzzles are crap! You may not have said those EXACT words, but it's the "feeling/meaning" behind your words that has offended me. This is a GAME site and honestly out of ALL the puzzles I have solved (2500+), the ONLY person who has been continually hateful and overcritical with their comments has been you! I haven't seen/read ANY other comments (by others) on here that have been as rude as yours have been....although you aren't quite as $h!tty as they used to be. I guess we should all thank you for not being as hateful as you used to be?! After all, there is a difference between being constructively critical vs just being rude and cutting others down for their efforts.
Thank you though for creating a puzzle about "war" and calling ME out for what I have said in response to YOUR rude comments, defending those you have stomped on along the way. After all, it must be ME that is in the wrong for sticking up for others whom YOU have cut down. It must be ME who is the hateful one! Right?! It couldn't POSSIBLY be the fact that when you joined you were totally/overly critical of almost every puzzle you completed/commented on, right?! There are many puzzles on here that I don't find as "fun" as others....but I don't make those creators feel BAD about their efforts!
So, an apology to ALL the Hanjie puzzle creators would be a HUGE step in the right direction...but again, that apology shouldn't be towards me...it should be aimed at all those you have been rude to!
A $h!tty, overtly hostile and sarcastic apology that you don't mean at ALL just goes along with all the other condescending things you have said on here to others and doesn't mean a damn thing....A SINCERE apology to all those you have "verbally wronged" would be nice though but I won't hold my breath...
I read your original comment about the harshness and inappropriateness of my comments. I was horrified that I'd breached the community standards, realized that I deserved the criticism, and was grateful that you had spoken about your feelings. I took your words to heart and moderated myself, as I learned (and am still learning) more about the atmosphere of this site's community. I heard/saw no further complaints, from you or anyone. And until I noticed the "Ranking for this hanjie" link and clicked on it on a lark to find out what it did, I didn't even realize you were solving and 1-rating all my puzzles.
When I saw that, I realized you were still offended, and that you felt that my comments were still too critical, but I was mystified as to why -- I felt the tone of my comments was in line with what's usual here. So I'm asking you what specifically about my comments is "crappy and rude" or "cutting others down" or "making those creators feel BAD". That's not my intention -- I'm just here to have fun~ Can you tell me how I can improve or what I can do differently? Tone is something that's hard for me to communicate with just text.
It's likely that I'm still doing something wrong, but I need to see what it is in order to apologize. Like you said, it's pointless for me to make an apology that I don't mean. Hopefully I'll be able to communicate my sincerity clearly enough once I get there...and that I'll have earned enough trust from you.
I AM glad you realize that your comments came across as condescending and judgemental of all the puzzles you solved. Honestly, that's all I wanted. For YOU to realize that you were not being a very nice person to ANYONE on here! Up until recently, even some of your nicer comments were completely judgemental! You had never responded to ANY of the comments I left to you, so I had NO WAY of knowing that you had even read them. And YES, that did tick me off a bit, because NO ONE deserves to be treated in the way that you were coming across!
I (and most other) will agree that there are some TRULY STELLAR puzzles on here...as well as some that are incredibly simple and pose very little challenge. Some are even too HARD for most or ANYONE to complete! However, there isn't a soul on here that creates a puzzle MEANING for it to be "bad." EVERYONE on here does their very best...regardless of how hard, simple or impossible they are to complete. NOBODY deserves to be cut down or be "bullied" by words! NOBODY on here has the RIGHT to treat others with such disrespect or hatefulness. All of us are here to have FUN, chill out and/or get some quiet time while keeping our minds sharp.
As far as me rating your puzzles with a "1"....the reason I did so was because I felt that I wasn't being heard and that you still thought you were "better than" others on here! After all, why would I give you a great rating on the few puzzles that you have created (and I only rated maybe two of them as "1's") when you were being hateful and $h!tty to others? Why would you be "rewarded" while others were being "bullied??" Does that not make sense?!
I just have absolutely no patience for people who feel the need to cut others down...especially in a place where we are all TRYING to have fun! I don't allow my children to act in such a way and they are only in grade school! So why would I bite my tongue when an ADULT is doing the same thing!?
I will fully admit that I may have been a bit "too hard" on you and that some things that I have said shouldn't have been on a PUBLIC forum, however, there was no other way to "converse" with you since there is no way to privately message others on this site. I wanted you to realize how you were coming across to others and for you to understand that you haven't been very nice since joining!
So I will apologize for my "1" ratings, but I cannot apologize for speaking out against online bullying...which is what you were doing and how you were acting/coming across. I still feel that you owe some others on here an apology for cutting them down and being overly and unnecessarily critical of their puzzles, which I am SURE they worked hard on!
I have not said ANYTHING about your comments to others recently and know that you HAVE "toned it down" and that you are not being as rude as you were being when you first joined. I will make you a promise that I will begin to treat your puzzles as I do everyone else's on here...with respect and kindness..as long as you stop being so hateful to others!
In today's world we are faced with so much criticism, judgement and disrespect....and we DON'T need it to continue in the place we come to relax and have fun! Hopefully I have clarified myself and you understand why I have said/done what I have. I think everyone in the world needs to "speak out" against abuse or bullying of ANY kind! It seems like the general public doesn't give a damn about one another and I don't believe that it should be that way! We are ALL in this world together and we ALL need to start treating one another with kindness, compassion, empathy and RESPECT. If everyone did so then this world would be a MUCH better place in which to live!